Tuesday, May 8, 2012

Social Media Control



What do you post on Facebook? On Twitter? On your own personal blog? This subject has been talked about quite a bit in the last year or so. "You need to watch what you post about because it could cost you your job, your reputation, etc."

This is true, and I agree, but I'm not going to "talk" about that today. Instead I'm going to take a different approach, sort of. I was at BSF (Bible Study Fellowship) a few weeks ago and the speaker made a really good point that has spoke to me as a person and as a writer.
Here is what she asked of us:
"Does what you post on any social media reflecting God in a good light or a bad light?" 
It really brought to light some of the things that I am seeing on Facebook posts, Tweets, blogs, and even more so on comments made on blogs. It also brought light to what I am posting...or at least has made me slow down and re-think before I put it out there before all the world to see. I even redid this post because I felt it was heading into a "preach it sista" mode, which is not what I was going for at all. 


I also read an interesting post by Jeff Goins with the question of whether people are meaner online than they are in real life. It's a good post if you have time to read it.

So, what do I do before I hit the "post", the "send", or the "publish" button? I ask myself this:

  1. Is this going to hurt someone's character? I'm not talking about critiques of one's work, but of them personally. 
  2. Is it TMI (too much information)? what I ate, what my kid did on the toilet, anything that I did that would make my mother blush - I hope I'm past that stage in life *blushing myself thinking of the past*
  3. How is this going to reflect Christ? I am a Christian so this is important to me.
So, what do you think? Do you think people are meaner online? Do you think people are too vocal about what they do in the personal lives? Or is it just me? Have you been able to keep your posts positive and encouraging? I'll be honest, I think I've posted a few things while writing this that I wish I hadn't. They weren't HUGE or anything, just snide remarks that could have just not been written. Anyway, would love to know your thoughts as I'm pondering these types of questions.


*picture from microsoft.com

5 comments:

Sharon K. Mayhew said...

I try to think carefully before I post something. I wouldn't want to post anything that a child who might read my future book would be embarrassed by.

I don't know how many times I've sent a former student a quick note reminding them that everyone can see their comments...

MaDonna Maurer said...

Ooh, that is so another good reason to watch what I post. Glad you wrote that one: "I wouldn't want to post anything that a child who might read my future book would be embarrassed by."

Marcia said...

I do think people are meaner online. Just scrolling through the comments on CNN or other news stories is quite the evidence. And yes, there's a lot of TMI. I too try to think before I post. I want to post what will reflect positively on Christ, but to take it a step further, I want to be someone who doesn't usually have to clean up what she's thinking in order to post well, if that makes sense.

A.L. Sonnichsen said...

This is a great reminder, MaDonna. I think it is a problem for everyone, but I've noticed it specifically in the younger generation. EVERYTHING goes public. It's disconcerting. One area I've tried to be particularly careful is always saying nice things about Aaron online. I cringe when I see some of the things people post about their spouses. It can be so negative and you know they're just posting out of anger. But yes, remembering to honor Christ in everything we post is a wonderful filter. The tongue is a fire ... and in this day and age, our fingers can be a fire, too. Maybe even more dangerous because what we write can be so easily misconstrued.

Great post!

MaDonna Maurer said...

Marcia- True words and I do understand.

Amy, Love your words "..our fingers can be a fire, too" That is SO true. And watching what we say about our spouses...again true words. I am trying to be careful in that area online and off line with friends. I may be frustrated with him or a situation, but I don't want to shout it out to everyone I see - cause he really is a GREAT guy, we just have our differences sometimes.