Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Tuesday's QBR...something a bit different

I did not finish one book this week. Not. One. I'm blaming it font size, but then that shows me admitting I'm getting old. Boo!
But, I just got an email from a friend who sent me a lovely piece. I've read this before, but not in a while. It is such a great picture of a family with a special needs child. Hope you enjoy and get a different perspective from it as I did almost seven years ago.
WARNING: Have tissue in hand!


WELCOME TO HOLLAND

by
Emily Perl Kingsley.
c1987 by Emily Perl Kingsley. All rights reserved

I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability - to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this......
When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.
After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."

"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."
But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.
The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.
So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.
I provided a picture for Holland NovakImage via Wikipedia
It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around.... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills....and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.
But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."
And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away... because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss.
But... if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very 
special, the very lovely things ... about Holland.




Love the last line....
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5 comments:

p&k said...

what a beautifully descriptive analogy! thanks for sharing.

MaDonna Maurer said...

Glad you enjoyed it, Kim.

A.L. Sonnichsen said...

Oh, I love this. Thanks for sharing this, MaDonna. Sorry I've been such an absent blog-friend lately! Trying to catch up. ;)

Amy

MaDonna Maurer said...

Amy, thanks for stopping by. I can't imagine why you'd be absent in the blog world these days. Hope the real world's been good to you!

Adeeva Afsheen said...


Banned complain !! Complaining only causes life and mind become more severe. Enjoy the rhythm of the problems faced. No matter ga life, not a problem not learn, so enjoy it :)

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